Enrichment Services Int. counseling center
Do you relate to any of the following statements?
We are so sick of the pain of constant bickering and never-ending arguments
about things that never get resolved
We have ongoing anger or resentment towards each other that we can’t seem to manage
Our sexual needs don’t get met and we struggle to talk about sex
We don’t know how to ‘fight fair’, so we are often blaming, criticizing or attacking each other
Our relationship is at a crossroads. There is no joy anymore
We struggle to communicate about the smallest things and often end up feeling miserable after a huge fight
We feel growing resentment and contempt that means we shut each other out for long periods of time
We can’t stop fighting because one of us wants to have children/be married and the other doesn’t
We are struggling to decide whether to end this relationship or work on it
We have a good relationship but want to make it agreat one
We work with couples that are experiencing negative and destructive patterns of relating and help them develop the skills for forming and maintaining healthy and loving relationships. We can help you re-build and make your relationship stronger.
In your heart, you know what matters most in life is loving and being loved — so when that isn’t happening in your marriage, you feel lost and hurt. Through couples counseling we get right to the heart of the matter — helping you and your loved one strengthen your bonds of love, trust, responsiveness, and safe connection.
“How do we save our marriage?”
Just by visiting this site, you’ve taken an important first step in saving your marriage! Without an acknowledgement that your marriage is in a vulnerable place, it’s unlikely that you and your spouse will be able to make the changes that are needed for you to move forward in love.
Your relationship matters so deeply to both of you, you and your spouse likely have strong feelings about what’s leaving you disconnected and unhappy — and those deep feelings often “hijack” your efforts to improve your marriage, leaving you in cycles of anger, blame, silence, and self-protection. The counseling process will help you find safety by slowing down these cycles and helping you feel and express your needs, hopes, fears, pains, and longings in a way that brings you together instead of pushing you apart.
Learning better relationship skills such as effective communication will enhance your relationship.
“How do we restore trust and safety to our relationship?”
Trust can be damaged in many ways within a long-term committed relationship like marriage. Sometimes the damage comes through distinct violations of trust such as affairs, addictions, or abuse. Other times trust gradually erodes as couples stop turning to each other, or as negative patterns of sarcasm, criticism, fault-finding, and defensiveness creep into the marriage. When feelings of trust and safety have been replaced by suspicion and fear, you find yourself cut off from the happiness and togetherness that you long for.
We guide you to identify and address any issues/behaviors that prevent the possibility for trust and safety to be rebuilt. Once this happens, you can see your options more clearly. We help you create a basic sense of safety so that you can begin to “cleanse the emotional wounds” caused by violations of love and trust.
We assist you in learning how to genuinely acknowledge the wounds that have found their way into your marriage so you can come together in a way that offers hope, dignity, and togetherness for both of you.
We aim to restore the relationship as a safe-haven for both of you, allowing the hurts from the past to become a memory, rather than a reflection of your current reality of renewed love and trust.
“Where did the feelings of love and passion in our marriage go? Can we get this back”
Early on in a couple’s relationship, passion often comes easily — the air between two people can be filled with desire, anticipation, and excitement. After the initial flames of attraction have subsided, you may ask, “Can we reclaim a lasting passion?”
The answer to this question is a resounding yes! As you learn how to connect and begin to create deeper and more emotionally responsive emotional bonds with your partner, desire, passion, and freedom will often return to your lovemaking. In contrast with sex that is over-focused on novelty and the physical act, emotional connection has the potential to bring both physical pleasure and deep emotional satisfaction to your sex life. In our experience, the more couples connect emotionally, the more cherished, playful, and fulfilled they feel when they are intimate as well.
“Why do we always get stuck in the same arguments?”
Every couple has their “difficult issues”—the topics that inevitably lead them to a “stuck” place. For some couples the topic is parenting; for others it is money, work, sex, in-laws. We can help you escape hurtful patterns so you can understand one another, get to the heart of the matter, and move forward together.
If you would like help saving your marriage, restoring safety and trust to your relationship, rekindling your fire and bringing the passion back, or discovering how to break patterns that keep you stuck and disconnected, make an appointment today.
You can break free from deeply ingrained destructive patterns to create the loving relationship & life you have always wanted
Through relationship counseling or marriage therapy, you can have:
√ Closeness and intimacy that comes from a safe, trusting, and committed relationship
√ Open, honest and respectful communications where you are truly heard
√ Conflict that gets resolved and brings you closer together
√ Renewed sexual vitality with your partner
√ A greater love for yourself and your relationship
√ A trusting and meaningful relationship with your partner
√ Shared meaning, purpose, and vision for your life and your relationship